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What is small guest list etiquette for wedding invitations

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Keeping control of your guest list is important for your budget, sanity and even your venue's fire codes.  A guest list can easily overflow and overwork your wedding budget.  To keep control of your guest list while still being inclusive on your Wedding Day, follow these tips on small guest list etiquette for wedding invitations.


  • Start by making a list of people who you would like to share your wedding day with. Have your fiancé and his parents and you and your parents each write up a list of people you would like to invite to the wedding.  Don't freak out when the list is large, 4 families and friends of all parties can make for quite a large list, you will have to edit your list later.
  • Decide on a wedding budget. Figure out how many people you can afford to have at your wedding. You will have to look at the size of wedding venue you can rent out, along with the cost of food.  Decide on a number of people and stick to it.
  • Cross off guests.  Cross people off the list who you haven't spent time with in over 5 years.  Look for groups of people you can delete off the list . Your dad's golf club friends, for example, might not be first priority to have at your wedding.
  • Rank remaining guests in order of importance that they attend your wedding.  Work together to rank each guest an A, B or C.  A's are the people you must invite, B's are the people you would really like to invite, and C's are the people you would like to invite but could survive without.  Compile the lists and create an A list, B list, and C list. Obviously you want to do this exclusively, you don't want anyone seeing they rate a B or C to you!
  • Send invitations out in waves.  Send out invitations to people from the A list, and as many of the B list as your guest capacity limit allows. Do this 6 weeks before the wedding and request RSVP's relatively soon.  If people cannot come to your wedding, slowly invite more people off the B list and work your way down the C list if you have capacity for it. While you'd love to have everyone at the wedding, this way you at least make sure the most important people are invited first.