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Speed dating is based on the idea that within the first 5 to 10 minutes of conversation you can know if you are romantically compatible with someone or not. Speed dating is a fun way to meet people and explore your dating options. These 5 tips will prepare you to have a successful speed dating experience.
 Prepare Ahead of Time
Make sure you know what you are looking for in a potential dating partner before you attend a speed dating event. Know if you are looking for a casual or serious relationship and be prepared to talk about what you want and why. Have a list of qualities that you look for in a companion such as life and career goals, hobbies, religious beliefs, lifestyle and physical traits. The characteristics that cannot be compromised should go at the top of your list. Have the list memorized, do not pull it out in front of you at a speed dating event.
Ask the Right Questions
Prepare a list of questions to ask at each mini date at a speed dating event to help determine if the person in front of you matches your criteria. Prepared questions also take away any pressure to create a stimulating conversation out of thin air over and over again. Be original with your questions and make sure they reveal details about yourself as well as the person you are talking to.
An example might be, "I enjoy horseback riding and archery on a weekly basis; what are some outdoor activities you find yourself enjoying regularly?" This question not only tells a potential somebody that you are a horseback rider and archer, but that you are athletic and enjoy doing things outdoors and that it is important to you that your partner do the same. You will be able to find out if the person you are talking to has similar interests. Make sure to mix up the questions between light and serious, make the experience fun and show your sense of humor!
Understand the rules to speed dating
Before you go speed dating it is important to know the universal rules to such events. There is an allotted amount of time for each person to chat with another and when a buzzer goes off you must move on to the next person in line. You are not allowed to move ahead or linger behind your place before or after the allotted time. You are not allowed to exchange contact information until after the event. The objective of speed dating is to quickly converse with people to decide if you are interested in pursuing a relationship with them or not.
Attend the right Speed dating event
Research the speed dating opportunities available in your area and determine in what kind of setting you will feel comfortable meeting people. Check the dress code before you attend, and ask yourself if you feel comfortable in the attire required. Speed dating occurs in many places, from restaurants and bars to college campuses. Make sure you attend an event that allows enough time for a brief chat, about 7 minutes, with each person. If only get 3 to 5 minutes you might not be able to get to know people well enough in order to decide if you would like to pursue a relationship with them or not.
Go with a friend
Bringing a friend is the best way to begin attending speed dating events. You can provide one another with mutual support and a sense of security. Don't act inseparable, it is best to bring along someone who has no problem meeting people on their own. Visit briefly between dates but make sure to wait until after the speed dating event to compare notes, as people will be able to overhear you. Bring separate cars, as it is common for couples who meet at speed dating events to go out for dinner afterwards.
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